Thai Smiles – Good, Bad, Ugly (and the 10 in between)
Thai Smiles All Have A Different Meaning!
This is a Guest Post By Daniel Fraser, Co-Founder of Smiling Albino about Thai Smiles and what they actually mean!
Imagine you have booked a beachfront room at a hotel in Thailand online. You’ve paid in advance and communicated your arrival details, and once you arrive to check-in, you find that the hotel is full.
As compensation, the hotel agrees to book you into another similar hotel nearby. But not on the beach. Even worse, it costs twice as much!
You demand that the hotel cover the difference. After all, it’s their mistake! But the smiling hotel manager, and then the supervisor, simply say that you have to pay the additional cost yourself. You begin to lose your temper. You firmly make your case, but to no avail.
No matter what you say, or how upset you get, or how often you appeal to yet another person higher up the chain of command, the front desk staff simply smile during the entire experience.
Thailand has long been referred to as ‘The Land of Smiles’ by visitors. But many westerners have become perplexed, even infuriated, at Thais’ ability to smile through virtually every situation, however maddening, unusual or inappropriate.
Thais Smile for more than happiness and glee. Thais, perhaps more than any other people, have an uncanny knack of smiling in instances of adversity, tension and even danger. Thais seem to smile at unusual times during conversations and business dealings.
In Thailand smiling is a form of subtle interpersonal-messaging which runs deeper and perhaps more accurately than language or syntax. In Thailand, there is actually a smile referred to as the “Yes, I know I owe you the money but I don’t have it right now.”
I’ve learned that there are actually 13 different types of Thai Smiles where most Thais can identify a specific meaning. In fact, most Thais can perform each of these smiles upon request with flawless accuracy based solely on the commonly used name.
The Thai Smiles List!
According to Working With The Thais: A Guide to Managing in Thailand, the ‘top 13’ identified Thai Smiles are:
1. Yim thang nam taa: The “I’m so happy I’m crying” smile.
2. Yim thak thaai: The “polite” smile for someone you barely know.
3. Yim cheun chom: The “I admire you” smile.
4. Fuen Yim: The stiff smile, also known as the “I should laugh at the joke though it’s not funny” Smile.
5. Yim mee lessanai: The smile which masks something wicked in your mind.
6. Yim yaw: The teasing, or “I told you so” smile.
7. Yim yae-yae: The “I know things look pretty bad but there’s no point in crying over spilt milk” smile.
8. Yim sao: The sad smile.
9. Yim haeng: The dry smile, also known as the “I know I owe you the money but I don’t have it” smile.
10. Yim thak thaan: The “I disagree with you” smile, also known as the “You can go ahead and propose it but your idea’s no good” smile.
11. Yim cheua-cheuan: The “I am the winner” smile, the smile given to a losing competitor.
12. Yim soo: “smiling in the face of an impossible struggle” smile.
13. Yim mai awk: The “I’m trying to smile but can’t” smile.
14. Yim som tam: The “Waiter, there’s a dead crab in my salad!” smile. (ok, this one was completely made up. But I’m sure I’ve given it myself a few times…).
One story illustrating the influence of smiling in Thai culture runs back to the political turmoil of the 1980’s. The Thai Prime Minister at the time, Gen. Prem Tinsulanond, was confronted by a swarm of journalists demanding answers about the government’s handling of domestic issues.
Rather than answer the questions directly, Gen. Prem buffered several questions by displaying a series of smiles for the perplexed media.
Thailand lives up to its namesake as ‘The Land of Smiles’. In the end, the culture of smiling does appear to allow for a more easy-going society, like when a Bangkok cabbie bumps into a car at a traffic light and all parties discuss the situation with cheeky grins, or a screaming child in a movie theatre elicits only smiles from nearby viewers (instead of annoyed eye-dagger glares) that we might expect in the west.
Thais Smiles Summary!
So, next time you step on a Thai’s foot in a crowded mall and the victim responds gleefully, remember that a Thai Smile is often not what it seems. As Thais and longtime ex-pats will tell you, a smile may have a thousand meanings.
The smile may even be on you!
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